When her vacation becomes a media circus that draws Malcolm back into her life and her handsome Psyche marketing colleague, Gray Ryley, arrives on the scene to tame her antics, Laila is determined make the men play by her rules. Gray finds himself torn between anguish and ecstasy when another Lalia-sitting assignment is placed in his hands; he’s asked to hinder Malcolm’s advances and subdue the paparazzi, while wrestling with his smoldering desire to get Laila in his bed. Will this assignment cause him to disclose feelings that may sever their friendship and jeopardize his career?
Genre: Contemporary Romance
Published by: Soul Mate Publishing
Release Date: February 10, 2014
Length: 238 Pages
Flirting With Love: Dealing With Secret Admirers
by Angeline M. Bishop
In my novel SOUTH BEACH Gray Ryley has a secret crush on his colleague and friend Laila Sheridan and it’s very hard to deal with working so closely with her. He keeps things very professional at work, so no one knows his secret but he wrestles with trying to control the urge to kiss her and make her his own.
Secret admirers have been in the news a lot recently because of unstable people taking things too far and actually letting their behavior cross over into stalking. This has led to people wondering if secret admirers are creepy or romantic. Here’s some sound advice for anyone wishing to anonymously express their interest in someone in the hope that they will discover someone likes them. ‘JUST BE HONEST.’
That’s right; tell your crush that you have feelings for them. Don’t waste time spending money on them by sending flowers and gifts, leaving notes on their cars, sending anonymous emails, or stalking their friends.
A secret admirer is an individual who feels fondness or love for another person without disclosing their identity to that person right away. Most admirers send gifts or love letters to their crush but their goal is to woo the object of their affections, and then to reveal their identity, paving the way for a real relationship.
One of the reasons why most people want to send tokens of their affection anonymously is because they don’t have many successes in their personal relationships and have developed a strong fear or rejection. But I’m here to tell you there’s a very thin line between stalking and admiring so why would you even want to play around with it.
If you don’t have the courage to state how you feel just directly, tell someone close to you about your dilemma and let them help you brainstorm about how you can work on your confidence so you can express your feeling competently.
And what do you do if you’re the object of someone’s secret affection. Well, if you don’t think you know the person, you MUST turn down the gifts. This will ensure that a secret admirer doesn’t turn into a stalker and will make the person reveal who they are sooner.
The last thing you want to do is give mixed signals and play with someone’s emotions.
In my novel SOUTH BEACH Laila knows Gray has an attraction for her and he won’t act on it due to their working relationship, so she flirts with him and tries to push the boundaries. She thinks this is harmless fun because she knows the character of Gray but you don’t know the character or mental stability of a secret admirer so refrain from doing anything that can be interpreted as your approval of being wooed.
I know some people were hoping I would be cheering the secret admirer on because I write romance but I think it’s so much better to cheer for people to be honest and straightforward because no one deserves to have their feelings minimized by secrecy and insecurity.
~About Angeline M. Bishop~
Inspired by the volunteers of a local community center, Angeline wrote North Star, her debut novel and the first book in her Sheridan series for Soul Mate Publishing. Angeline drew on her ten years of work experience in academics to transport romance readers from their stressful lives by providing contemporary love stories that feature captivating characters with strong family values.
Angeline was born in Washington, D. C., but lived most of her life in New Jersey and considers the “Garden State” her home. Her childhood passion for writing led to a degree in English Literature and a membership in Romance Writers of America. She is the Vice President of the Cultural, Interracial, and Multicultural Special Interest Chapter of Romance Writers of America and enjoys providing aspiring writers with writing resources to help them strengthen their craft. Angeline loves to hear from her readers. You can contact her through her Website.
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